Two months ago, my technologically savvy 12- year old daughter bought herself an iPod touch (I don’t even have an iPod touch). She worked hard to save her money and was absolutely elated when she finally had enough money to buy it!
Since the “big purchase”, she’s been proudly carrying it around with her everywhere…..We’ve had lots of conversations with her about how to take care of it and when and where to bring it and not bring it, but I’ve been waiting for the dreaded day when something happened to it…Well, that day was YESTERDAY!!!!
Last night, she noticed that it wasn’t turning on…it was completely dead. Since I was on my way to Target, I agreed to drop her off at the Apple store so someone there could take a look at it. Minutes after dropping her off, she walked out of the Apple store in tears…Her iPod touch had been damaged by water and could not be fixed. She was DEVASTATED.
I resisted the urge to go right into her with “You shouldn’t have put it in a bag with bottled water”……but I held my tongue and just hugged her.
In the car, I could have SO easily gone into the “I told you so” mode. Again, I resisted the STRONG urge. I took a deep breath, put my hand on her back, and let her cry.
When we got home she was still upset, so I told her that if she got into bed I would sit on her bed and scratch her back.
As I was scratching her back, I could hardly stand to watch her sadness. …It broke my heart to know that she had worked so hard to buy it only to end up breaking it two months later. I so badly wanted to fix her problem. I thought about offering to buy her a new one..but I knew that wouldn’t be right. If I rescued her, I would be cheating her out of the valuable life lessons that come out of an experience like this.
After she calmed herself down, we got a chance to talk and I got a chance to gently sneak in a few valuable life lessons…
1. “Things” break. Even though it’s hard…try not to put too much value into “things”.
2. When you feel sad about a loss choose to be grateful. Think about all the things that you have, not what you don’t have.
3. Take care of things that are important to you.
She actually listened to what I had to say. Through breaking her iPod touch, she learned some valuable life lessons.
Oh, if you see her in our stores this summer, you’ll know why….she’ll be working to save up money for her next iPod touch!!!
~M